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Low Self-Esteem = Lack of Self-Love

Around 85% of people are affected by low self-esteem in the world today. 60% of people say they wish they had more respect for themselves. Nearly eight out of ten women expressed trouble with their self-esteem.

These facts are real and make me deeply sad because historically, I have been part of those statistics.

Having low self-esteem means that you often think negatively about yourself, criticize yourself horribly, and lack confidence in your gifts, talents, and abilities. Low self-esteem can affect all areas of life, including productivity at work. Symptoms of low self-esteem can include:

  • Worrying throughout the day.
  • Difficulty receiving positive attention, affirmations, or compliments.
  • Having frequent negative, diminishing, and sometimes cruel self-talk.
  • Fear of failure and making mistakes.
  • Comparing yourself to others and feeling little and “not enough.”
  • Hopelessness for the future.
  • Being a people-pleaser.
  • Lacking a purpose.

Moving from low self-esteem to increased confidence, trust, and even admiration toward oneself is possible and attainable.

I describe this process to my clients as the never-ending journey of falling in love with ourselves over and over again including despite our shadow sides, our blind spots, the mistakes we make, and the imperfections we have.

This work of self-love is nonnegotiable with my coaching clients. Why? Because they can’t overcome their lack of motivation, commitment, or results at work unless they stop, reflect, and uncover the relationship they have with themselves.

Low self-esteem is not an external factor you fix. It’s an inner state of being and feeling, thinking, and behaving that impacts what is outside. Without understanding what causes it (most likely our childhood experiences and relationships with our caregivers), low self-esteem will grow like a snowball crushing and destroying what’s in front of it.

To start breaking through low self-esteem, watch this video and start your version of sweet and positive self-talk. Then DM and let’s get to work with your coaching program. It won’t be easy, but it will be so worth it. I promise!